Happy 2016 everyone!
The start of a new year is an exciting time. Everyone is busy working on their resolutions. The sad truth, however, is that many have already quit.
According to recent statistics, 25% of people who make new year’s resolutions quit in the first week. This percentage has been observed over the past few years and it’s true today as it was a few years ago. But why do people quit so early? Why aren’t they sticking to their goals and plans?
Making a new year’s resolution is a tradition, and many people make a resolution because that’s what everyone else is doing. Moreover, many people think of their new year’s resolution on New Year’s eve. It’s not something they have been anticipating or making plans for. It’s simply a fun thing to talk about at a New Year’s eve party.
Saying you want to do something and actually committing to doing it is two different things. If it’s not written down in a notebook or on a word document, then you’re simply not serious. Be conscious of what you say and decide if it’s something that will add value to your life. Without the why, you’re merely a wanderer.
Sticking to new year’s resolutions or any resolution for that matter is not an easy thing. And if you plan to rely only on your will-power to accomplish your goals and you have no other strategy, then my personal advice to you is this: don’t waste your time. You will probably quit in the first month.
Relying only on your will-power is like driving a stick and only using the first gear to drive your car. The harder you press the gas pedal, the louder and the “angrier” your engine is going to be…well, until the engine burns out and then down to the ground. The same applies for you. The harder you try to use your willpower, the more likely you will burn out and stop.
You need an additional strategy. You need a Program of Action.
If the sound of a structured program pains your ears, then you need to reconsider your approach to your goals. The truth is: you won’t reach your goals if you don’t have a program. Now, yes you might make little progress here and there, but I am certain you won’t reach them if you don’t have a program of action. The purpose of a program is to give you a strategic plan. It takes some trial and error to put a program together – if you want to do it yourself. If you want more professional advice, then let’s get in touch and work together.
Nonetheless, here are three tips to help you put your first program together:
- Start easy for goodness sake. Don’t create an ideal program. Create a program for an imperfect human being that slips and errs often. Most people want fast progress and they want it now, but please recognize that that’s not how it’s done. You need to take it easy until you become comfortable with taking willful action. You’re not superman…yet.
- Be flexible and improvise when necessary. Don’t set your standards too high. It’s okay to not feel like doing the work on certain days. However, please stick to the plan and try to at least go through the motions if you don’t feel like doing the entire thing. For example, if you don’t feel like exercising, then go to the gym nonetheless, and walk on the treadmill for 5 minutes. That’s it. More often than not, you will keep going. If you can’t make it to the gym, then do something at home. Run one block or whatever to stick to the program. It’s okay to finish last…as long as you run the whole race.
- It’s okay not to see progress. Most people want results right NOW. They want to get rich quickly, they want the 6-minute abs, they want their business to dominate the market and more. There’s a gap between the structures we build in our minds and the reality on the grounds. It’s good to dream, but your life will change to the better when you have an accurate grasp of reality, so don’t rush. Good things in life need time, and sometimes it might take a lot of time…but don’t let that discourage you. Let things take their course and regardless of how slow you’re seeing results, keep putting in the time. Be honest with yourself for once and gamble on sticking to a program. It’s your best bet to change your life.
Lastly, if creating a program sounds like a lot and you want to quit, please remember that time will pass anyway. And if you don’t take action, you will lose your time but you will also lose the chance of seeing your goal realized.
Goo luck on your goals this year and let me know if I can be of help!