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How to Deal With Disappointment

Disappointment is a feeling you’re bound to experience if you’re trying to live a purposeful life. Living skillfully doesn’t come easy and you will encounter situations where things won’t go your way. And it’s frustrating when we invest ourselves into relationships, businesses, and opportunities that don’t turn out as we like. But frustration, anger, and sadness will not change the disappointing outcome. And if you don’t address and manage your feelings appropriately, disappointment can grow into depression and even despair. Here are a few tips to help you take active control of your feelings and ameliorate your pain. 1. Express…

Encourage Yourself If You Want to Succeed (Here’s Why?)

You’re tired of not seeing the results you want. You’re putting in a lot of hours, but so far…nil. Your business is not going well. You don’t feel motivated to exercise, and in your personal life, you haven’t met a new person or made a new friend in a while. And now you want do something that’s “comfortable,” something that doesn’t require close attention and consistency. But hold on. That’s not a solution. It’s an escape. And in choosing to escape, you also choose to reinforce the false belief that “you don’t have what it takes to make it.” Let…

4 Gratitude Exercises For Well-Being (#3 is best)

Recent scientific studies shows a direct relationship between gratitude and well-being. That is, the more grateful you are to what you have in your life, the happier you will be and the better quality of a life you will lead. We all go through unforgiving times – stress is high, unhealthy tension at work, family drama, financial problems, etc – and without a proper coping mechanism, all these negative thoughts and feelings can decrease how happy we feel. Thankfully, there are a number of gratitude exercises that you can practice to stay in control and experience more overall happiness in…

Willing to Overcome Limiting Beliefs

People can sometime be their own toughest critics and their own worst enemies — all at the same time. They let their limiting beliefs step between themselves and their goals. They convince themselves that they’re not cut out to become successful, or realize their dreams, or reach financial abundance and live the life they truly deserve and desire. Their limiting beliefs have become so ingrained in their subconscious that they really don’t need anyone to put them down. They put themselves down by themselves and give up without any external pressure whatsoever. They’ve trained themselves to lose out before they…

Excuses! How to Stop Making “Believable” Excuses

I was speaking with a good friend of mine who was sick and tired of her job. Every time I see her, she would say things like: “I am not happy at this job” “I haven’t done anything challenging in 3 years” “I can barely live on the salary they pay me” “I can’t stand it here anymore.” She had been saying this to me for more than three months until one day I said to her, “well, why don’t you quit and do something else with your time.” And that’s when she started making what I call “believable” excuses.…

How to Practice Self-Compassion (The Right Way)

The road to success is filled with obstacles and roadblocks, and before you succeed you’re going to fail; not once, but many, many times. It’s an inevitable part of the process. And what determines whether you will get up and keep trying instead of letting go and surrendering is your ability to deal with failure emotionally. One of the hallmarks of success is having high self-efficacy. In my article on self-efficacy, I discussed the importance of having an unrelenting drive to realize the compelling vision that you’ve created of yourself. I described self-efficacy as being part and parcel of the…

2 Proven Exercises to Neutralize Negative Thinking

“Positive anything is better than negative nothing.” – Elbert Hubbard. Negative thinking is an evaluative view of the world in which one overestimates the likelihood of failure as opposed to success. Saying “I can’t,” or “I am not good enough,” and believing you’re not going to succeed at your chosen tasks can set you back in serious and detrimental ways. But you don’t have to be a victim of negative thoughts anymore. There are tools and resources that I’ve personally used that have helped me change my thoughts instantly. I’ve had tremendous success with them and I hope they will…